It seemed like I spent my first three months as a mama on our couch. I’m surprised there’s not a huge, me-shaped indent permanently imprinted into it.
It felt lonely & joyful & boring & irritating & confusing & blissful & isolating & just plain weird.
I’d see other mamas online with babies of similar ages and it seemed like they were all out travelling or doing activities or writing books while their babas napped – and don’t get me started on the ones posing with their “I slept through the night for the first time!” milestone cards.
And there I was with a baby who was a complete boob monster who wouldn’t sleep unless he was attached to me. It felt like a huge accomplishment just to shower and feed myself. Netflix and biscuits were my main sources of nourishment. I regularly called my husband at 3pm desperate for him to come home from work early. And when he did get home, he’d give a well-intentioned “What have you two been up to today?” And I’d want to shout, “THIS! THIS COUCH IS MY WHOLE LIFE NOW!”
Don’t get me wrong: there was so much joy too but it was completely disorienting.
It was hard not to let the self-doubt creep in. Even though I was following my intuition and deep down knew that it was all completely normal, I would still wonder: was I doing this wrong? Should I be getting more done? Was anyone else spending so much time on their sofas? Were they as bored and restless and confused as me?
I desperately wanted to lift back the curtain and peek into the lives of other mothers. How were they spending their days, behind the highlight reels of social media?
Nearly six months on and in many ways, mamahood is much easier for me these days. But I still spend a lot of time on that couch, a lot of time in the mundane, a lot of time alone with my baby. And I’m still desperately curious to see what it looks like for others. Not so I can fall into compare and despair but because recognizing my experience in theirs is so comforting. And if I can pick up any tips to make it all flow a little easier, all the better!
So I’m rallying the troops and on March 14th, asking you to share #MyDayOfParenting. A social media campaign to help us all feel less alone in this confusing world of taking care of tiny humans.
We’ll post hourly updates on Instagram Stories to really give a sneak peek of what life looks like, both with our children and on our own. And then we can share a post on our grids using the hashtag, giving a little recap of the day or any thoughts on our parenting lives.
Whether you’re a SAHM getting cabin fever at home. Or you’re at work and suffering from major mom guilt. Whether you fill your day with activities or are more go-with-the-flow. Whether you’re rocking the 9-5 and loving that you have some space just for you Or if you can’t imagine anything better than a day with your littles. Whatever you’re going through, whatever you’re feeling, and whatever decisions you’re making, it’s all valid and normal. And by sharing it we can show other parents that they’re not alone and that what they’re going through is valid and normal, too.
I hope you’ll join us.
If you want, you can pop your email below and I’ll send you a little reminder the week of the campaign + whenever the campaign runs again (but that’s it – I promise, only 1 email a month max!)